5. THE COMMUNITY RESPONDS

Women's Criminality Disturbs the Social Order

One must tread lightly when attempting to discern the underlying factors that give rise to the social order in any given place and time. Throughout history, men have committed more crimes ­ particularly violent crimes ­ than women, but noteworthy shifts occur when women commit any crimes, particularly violent ones. "Women criminals today seem to spark a special fear, fantasy and overreaction in male society." (Jones 1996, 3 citing the magazine Oui)

Women have historically been scapegoats. During the Salem witch trials of 1692, for instance, women (and some men) who were accused of practicing witchcraft were publicly hanged, drowned, and burned alive at the stake. People were more afraid of witchcraft than of the accused witches themselves. They sought to challenge feared shifts in the social order and loss of male privilege. Group panic rather than logic drove the populace to scapegoat predominantly female "witches."

Centuries later, in 1941, a new brand of sociologists, organizing as the American Society of Criminologists, came to the fore in Berkeley, California. They concentrated their efforts on crimes committed by men. These "experts" ignored women's criminality and how gender differences affect crime rates. In 1979, The National Prison Project of the American Civil Liberties Union reported that "Although there clearly is not a 'new breed' of violent women, there is almost certainly a new attitude toward women within the criminal justice system."

An Extraordinary Level of Denial: "Defending Our Lives"

"If you have not been beaten, stalked and abused then you have been truly blessed. This is an opportunity to thank God that you have been spared that. But I would argue it means that you have an even greater responsibility to try to understand and empathize with those who live with that." ­ Sarah Buell

Feeling abandoned by church and community, and seeing no other alternatives, an abuse victim may be driven to kill her abuser to save her own life. The Emmy-award winning documentary "Defending Our Lives," a film about the magnitude and severity of domestic violence in this country, opens the door to the lives of five battered women from Massachusetts who used killing violence to end their abuse and the aftermath of that choice. A note on the cover of the videotape reads:

"Every person in this documentary is an expert; each has experienced firsthand the terror of domestic violence. These women were forced to defend their lives, and this documentary captures the cruel irony of putting them behind bars once they have finally escaped their abusers."

The documentarians exemplify each woman's life by juxtaposing a high school graduation picture with a police photo of her bruised body as she is examined by an emergency responder after having been beaten and abused by an intimate partner. The narrator is Sarah Buell, assistant district attorney with the Suffolk County (Massachusetts) Domestic Violence Unit. She herself is a former battered woman. She describes all manner of abuse committed against women and proclaims: "Yes, there is a war against women and children in this country."


Buell recalled growing up in New York City and being warned never to walk alone in parks and "unsavory places" where a man might jump out of the bushes to attack her, but she said, "No one said, 'You need to be careful who you bring home.' We don't say that to our daughters, our sisters, our brothers. We engage in an extraordinary level of denial about the extent of family violence as it occurs in Massachusetts and across this country." The FBI has said that one of every two women will be in a violent relationship in their lifetime, "not because fifty percent of all men are batterers, but because we as a their community and society fail to hold them accountable."

Excerpts from "Defending Our Lives" offer personal testimony to the hell battered women endure, the choices they felt forced to make, and how society answers their cries for justice.

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Shannon Booker
Shannon described her life as terror filled. Her husband had beaten and threatened to kill her numerous times. "This night was more fearful than ever. When I took Jose's life, a part of me died too. But I had to defend my life. It was either me or him. I'm the victim here, and now I'm being victimized by the system."

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Patty Hennesy
"You feel like it's you that is provoking his behavior. But no matter what you do to make him happy, the abuse continues. You end up staying because you really want to believe that the person you love loves you back. Every living human person needs to believe that they are loved. Because you hate what they're doing doesn't mean you hate them and you want to believe they will change. I knew he was going to kill me that day. The police, the courts should have protected me. It didn't have to be this way. If a stranger had done this to me , [the police] would have stopped him. But because he was my husband, they won't help. I don't understand it."

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Meekah Scott
In her speech to a law school class, Meekah Scott said, "Twenty women dead in eleven months ­ it's crazy. I could have been one of these statistics but I fought back." Meekah Scott was sentenced to 8-12 years for killing her abusive husband.

 

This drama about domestic abuse and women who use killing violence in Massachusetts should be a wake-up call for Mainers who believe they are free from such big-city occurrences. The fact is, Maine is not immune from domestic violence. Bowdoin College or even Bangor Theological Seminary could make a similar documentary that tells the story of more than five Maine women who also have stopped their abuse by killing their abuser.

One of those women who survived her abuse only to be imprisoned for saving her life is Vella Gogan. By valuing and mining her survivor knowledge, the community ­ the church, police, courts ­ will be better equipped to witness and tell the truth of her trauma. It is incumbent on the community not to wring its collective hands in the face of such brokenness and violence, but to activate empathy ­ to imagine a different ending to the story.